Gaining perspective on my dating habits has been a long journey.
In order to truly grow and change, I have had to cultivate a loving and respectful relationship with myself.
But while you can’t choose not to have that first thought, you decide not to let yourself follow it. Force yourself to finish reading that Tweet, or maybe even that book you were so into before you met him. So if you’re having a serious flirtation with a guy and feel like you’re getting swept away, get back into reality STAT. The Pattern: When you like a guy, you try to orchestrate events that will bring you together, like organizing a happy hour after work or a night out dancing with your classmates. You are trying to push him to ask you out NOW so you don’t have to sit with your anxiety all week.
Your heart races, your breath catches in your chest, and all you want to do is rip his clothes off. There is never a lull in the conversation; you could talk for hours and hours so you do, and your date extends from a having one drink into the night and maybe even the next day.I now truly believe that I am worthy of love and I will never again surrender my sense of self to my partner.I will never allow my partner to diminish my sense of self worth and dignity.At work, you bump into cabinets and space out during meetings because you’re so intoxicated by fantasies of this guy. Your attention span is shot and you can only keep your mind off him long enough to read a Tweet. How To Break It: Make a rule for yourself: No Fantasy.This is hard because we have no control over where our minds roam.