Ridiculing or humiliating each other is not a good idea, or a good omen.But if you can both talk honestly about what irritates or upsets you and why, you are more likely to understand each other better.You will come back to the relationship refreshed, more able to express your needs (as you’re more likely to know what they are).We will always ultimately be a mystery to each other – it’s more healthy for this to be acknowledged, celebrated even, than denied. According to research, people who sneer, ridicule or talk down to their partner are on a fast track to relationship destruction.
But our culture presents only one type as being valid: youthful, vigorous, usually penetrative.
It can be surprising and revealing and paves the way for honesty.
We tend to jump in with an opinion before we’ve heard each other out.
Appreciate what life still has to offer while you can.
The great wonder of middle age is that we know our time is now limited.
It can be pretty sexy in bed too – as long as you’re laughing together. No matter how bad things are, give your partner a chance to speak.