When coming out of a relationship, a friend should be there as a strong supportive shoulder.
“If they begin to date the woman you were seeing, it can feel like an extra knife in the back. My rule of thumb is that it's fine unless it is a very good friend.
Relationship coach and author Lisa Hayes told us, “You’ve got to get the green light. Instead of simply asking if it’s OK, you should instead ask a more thought-provoking and conversation-stimulating question.
For example, ‘How While this situation might yield an unfavorable response based on the rules of guy code, Jennifer Kelman, LCSW and relationship expert, says that although it might be considered faux pas, it’s unnatural to think it can’t or won’t happen.
More times than not, going after your buddy’s ex is off limits and fully violates any type of guy code by which you might abide.
But every once in a while, the universe speaks to a person and lets him know that, although it seems wrong at first, there might be a bigger reason your friend dated this person in the first place – maybe it was to connect the two of you, instead.
During the conversation, pay attention to your friend's non-verbal communication.
The last thing you want to do is burn your bridges with those who will continue to support you and be around you the longest,” explains Callow.Particularly if you were in a long-term relationship with her,” he says. If it's just an acquaintance from work, and he dated a woman you like, they broke up, then there is no reason why you couldn't date her,” says Sebastian Callow, a London-based dating coach for men. Experts recommend considering how long your friend and his ex dated (anything over six months is tricky territory as the emotional ties tend to be stronger); how old you are (one expert suggested that in our twenties, perceived slights carry more weight than when we're older and “more realistic”); why you're interested (do you lack the self confidence to approach a stranger?But what if you really, really fancy Sally, to the point you're picturing sleepy Sundays and all sorts of lovely, luscious romance? ); how much stress you're willing to endure; and ultimately what the friendship is worth.As Michele Fabrega, a love, intimacy, and sexuality coach for men, tells The Cheat Sheet to consider these factors first: If you really consider your buddy a true friend, then clearly you’ve given this much thought prior to deciding to move forward.Because you think it’s worth it to pursue a relationship with his ex, it’s important to be honest – with both yourself and your friend.
People think it’s always the friend who will wig out if you date her ex, but sometimes it’s the ex himself! Maybe If you talk to your friend and she’s really ok with you double dipping in her dating pool, then I say it’s fine.