In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.
All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.