Here's one extra strategy for you :) Hinting - Essentially, this isn't demanding at all. As compliance strategies, when used at full-strength, they can make some feel "uncomfortable" (once again, hence my caveat). It's the attempted manipulation and steam-rollering which is the most irritating aspect. Some people prefer the fast rides, others the games, others the slow. If you'd like to be part of that style of flirting, dating, and relating, then you can opt in.
It is simply "dropping clues" that you'd like to be asked out. In light of the above input, I have edited the article a bit to include "softer" endings of some of the approaches. Also, if they're willing to be so manipulative to get a first date, what additional house of horrors are they waiting to unleash? It is always nice to hear what advice/techniques each person prefers and finds attractive in others. To you, the ride that looks like a scary "house of horrors" can be off-putting - but others see it as fun and line up for it. If you don't, then you are clear when someone else is using them, and can choose not to participate. Luckily, in the world of attraction, like usually attracts like. Ok maybe it's just a matter of personal preferences. These techniques bring that kind of spirit to the game.
Others, however, find the same strategies clever, flirty, and attractive.
Ultimately, it is your call (and your tradeoff) between the direct and indirect approach. Attraction for more dating and relationship advice (in helpful categories)! This strikes me as akin to the investment brokers who call and say they want to discuss their ideas, "So, is the morning or the afternoon better for you? These strategies are somewhat akin to those found in sales. If you have not already done so, you might also want to check out my "Just Asking" articles.
So, remember to use them with a smile, in a flirty, light-hearted way (like you're trying to be cute, not trying to con them).
Even so, you may still "turn off" some possible romantic partners who prefer a more direct and "authentic" approach.
It is flattering to know that someone likes me and is nervous about approaching me.
Like ana, I think I would interpret them as not very suave and I find the not-so-suave approach very appealing.
" (Nearly all of them say this, so it must be part of their sales training.) The idea, of course, is to give me only two choices so I'll pick one; I pick neither. Persuasion and compliance techniques are employed by practitioners in many areas. But, it would be nice to have some company while I eat. That is a more direct approach, but may come across as less "demanding".
Still, this doesn't mean the technique doesn't work in a general way. I'll take your word for it that these strategems work more than they annoy. In fact, the "forced" or "false" choice technique is indeed part of "sales training 101" in many places. See my reply above for links or go to The Attraction Doctor blog post list.
I have a hard time with this approach when it is used on me, especially repeatedly. So if you are too nervous the techniques are a fun reminder to get back to natural friendly ways as if you were friends. My friends and I don't communicate in this way, we are very straight forward with one another.
I have an ex who still will always say "Let me know when you want to ...." instead of just outright asking. This is what confident people usually do and confidence and naturalness and playfulness are usually welcome in most social circles -and especially in friendship and dating. In addition, I understand that everybody is different and some people are shyer and more reserved than others.
Below, I will highlight some of these strategies and apply them to getting a date (with examples of "weaker" and "stronger" technique interpretations).